It is very critical to your success to not be afraid to ask for help. When you are faced with a big decision we think: to ask or not to ask that is the question. In the multitude of wise counsel there is security. One thing that we should take not of though is if we are willing to do what we hear if the advise we hear is valid. It doesn’t even matter how good the advice is if you’re not going to do it. So then we stand in the face of doing or not doing. But lets back up for a moment here. before you even ask a friend, colleague, mentor or whom ever it may be for advice consider these three things first.
Are You Looking For Advice or Validation?
We can easily just be looking for someone to pat us on the back and say “there, there what you are doing is right.” It may be the right time but wrong option or wrong application to the right situation. The big thing here is to locate yourself. If you are looking for someone else to validate your emotions even though what you feel down in your gut is telling you otherwise then don’t lie to yourself about that. Just know that it may not turn out how you want it to.
Are You Ready to Hear the Truth?
Seeking advice without an open mind is like mining for gold while blindfolded: even if you came across a “golden nugget,” you would never even realize it? The truth hurts. The person may advise you to do something you really don’t want to do. They may tell you that your brilliant idea has a huge flaw. This is where humility and prudence comes into play. Faithful are the wounds of a friend and it is a wise man who receives instruction. If you can stand hearing the words “You’re Wrong” then you are definitely in position to prosper. But If you are not willing to be corrected save yourself the time and energy and don’t even ask for advice.
Is it Emotion or Logic?
Sometimes our emotions can try to become louder than the right way. Ultimately you are in control of your own life. I am not telling you to ignore any ones advice. You don’t have to take every word that everyone tells you. Heck, I’ve turned down plenty of advice before and turned out on top. But you must realize why you are not going to take advantage of the advice. Is it because you heard something that you didn’t want to hear in the first place and it makes you feel uncomfortable? Or because you have thoroughly thought the situation through and you realize that faith is required.
Make sure that your decision is thought out thoroughly. People can be really good at making emotional decisions and then justifying them rationally.
Next time you are face with a big decision just think back to these three steps and ask your self why your are making the decision that you are making now.
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